Sunday, May 18, 2008

Why I want to marry a Gold Digger

I have become renowned for being Single unfortunately. Most of my peers have been married for years and have several children. In 5 years I will be the same age as my grand mother when she first achieved that title. As you can imagine from friends and family a like I am constantly getting grilled and lectured over my solitary status. I have countless scouts that out of love and concern, diligently look underneath every rock and tree for a help mate to get me hitched to. Every time I speak somewhere in my introduction the host makes sure to comment, “By the way Ladies he is Single!!!” Followed by the token pity howls, given by those that were let in the room for free. I used to like it in fact. I used to imagine myself as some dangerously handsome tycoon in “Time” magazine as one of the worlds most eligible bachelors. I had a bit of a swagger because of it, a smirk on my face and a pep in my step. Then I turned 30. As I tend to do, I did a little soul searching and realized that I was lonely. A quote from David O McKay kept haunting me. “No success can compensate for failure in the home.” I was a different type of homeless, one with just as few legitimate excuses as the other type bumming for change at a freeway off ramp. Around then I realized it was time to adjust my priorities and date with marriage in mind. Not to ask some one on a date because I planned on marrying them, but to date someone to look for the possibility of marriage with them. This type of dating to me is like a very long job interview and can be exponentially more mentally taxing. Desperately trying to find out if my date has an axe murderer penned up inside of her and knowing she is wondering the same thing about me. That’s usually when I think myself into a panic and start acting weird in consequence to trying so hard to act normal.

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In the midst of all of this however I have learned a lot about what matters most to me in finding a wife. There are many qualities of course that are an absolute must. Spirituality, mutual physical attraction, the ability to communicate effectively, wants children, etc. but there is one thing that I have come to appreciate as much or more than all the others. I don’t know how to label this quality except to say that it is the quality to appreciate the qualities in me.

There are a lot of things us quirky humans find endearing, that everyone else could care less about. The way we mispronounce a word, how we slurp our soup or snort when we laugh. Those types of things I feel are important. However it is not what causes love, it’s a by product of love.

People fall in love for too many reasons to count. Usually it is a combination of reasons. But I want someone to fall in love with me because I am a man of ability and achievement. Not because I have a lot of friends (not saying I do) but for the reason people want to befriend me, not because I have tons of money (not saying I do) but because I have the ability to earn a ton of money. Not because of my accomplishments but because I am a man of accomplishment. In fact I wouldn’t want to marry anyone if they loved me and these were not at least some of the reasons why.



There is a phrase with a stigma attached I find interesting, “Gold Digger”. Now I obviously don’t like the stereotypical Gold digger. The phrase “Gold Digger” has come to mean in our society a man or a woman who marries for money, usually as an easy road to material gain with out any effort or productivity of their own. To reap what you have not sown is no better than a thief, mooch or a looter. However I couldn’t think of a better phrase to describe what I desire in an Eternal Companion. I want someone to love me for the Gold that is with in me and is willing to dig with me to extract it. I heard someone once say, “Speak to the king within the man and within the man the king will appear.”

Now obviously for this to work whether we are married or single we need to work hard every day to make the most of ourselves. It means that I must strive to spend my time laboring to be worthy of such a women. Not only to be a man of ability but to the have the ability to see the women of ability. I believe like attracts like which means we tend to gravitate to those like us. Like a tuning fork will resonate with keys, chords and crystals of the same pitch, the proper person will resonate with who you are. So if this all true, if what we want is the very best shouldn’t we try to be the very best? In fact isn’t that the only way we can possibly accomplish that.

I think all of us myself included spend much more time trying to find the right one, when we should be trying to become the right one. If you desire someone that is physically fit, the best way to accomplish that is to be physically fit yourself. If you want someone to be spiritually sound, the good news is there are plenty of them out there. However because they are spiritually sound they are only looking for people who are spiritually sound. A good exercise to do is to take those lists we used to make in our adolescence of what we wanted in a spouse and up date them and then rate our selves 1-10 on how we are doing in those categories ourselves. It is an eye opener. I realized the reason I wasn’t married wasn’t because the type of person I was looking for doesn’t exist but that the type of person I wanted wouldn’t be interested in me.

Doing this has given me more purpose in my personal development. It has given me a stronger “why” for the things I do every day. It has also helped me to weigh in opportunity cost on the decisions I make and how it affects the person I am and the people I attract. It really has in my biased opinion made me a better person. Or in other words has increased the Gold mine inside of me.

For those already married similar rules I think would apply. I have noticed that some remain frustrated at their spouse for various character flaws that they have. What they usually don’t understand is those same character flaws are in them too. In fact that is usually at least partially what attracted them to each other. If we want things to change in our relationship, we can not do it by taking a way the agency of another. We can only change things by changing ourselves. As Jim Rohn says, “for things to change, you have to change.” It is the “if it is to be it’s up to me” philosophy. Only by working on ourselves can we guarantee results, because then if nothing else we have bettered all our relationships because we bring a better us to the table. Then by so doing we liberate others to do the same, we provide an example to others to follow suit. Then together progression becomes easier and happens and a higher rate.

This life is a beautiful life. A life that is all the more beautiful when we find someone of like mind, heart and spirit to share it with. Genesis is right, “It is not good that man, (or woman) should be alone.” Certainly the synergy, that comes from a marriage of two equally yoked people yields limitless potential. I was asked to give a Eulogy a few years ago. I went to interview the wife of the man I was eulogizing at his bed side hours before he passed away. She told me plenty of stories and facts about his life but one thing she said in passing stuck out to me the most. She said “We ran a great race”. How fortunate to be able to say that. To run hand in hand to create a better world, to extract and have extracted the best that is with in us that can only be accessed by the companionship of someone. Someone, who sees the very best in you.
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Anonymous said...

The problem is that most of what he writes about was plagiarized. I've seen people leave comments about how Jodi stole the gun and shot him and blah blah. Not true. The evidence, IF you understand it, clearly shows it was not the stolen gun that Travis was shot with. The police report states it was loaded with hollow point bullets. The bullet recovered from Travis was a round point. A hollow point would have turned his brain into spaghetti. Research it. Just prior to Travis death, he had already raped and sodomized Jodi, watched almost an hour or raw anal porn then attempted to assault her again from the shower. Lights out. Say good night. Travis had some very serious psychiatric issues and was never able to find the right help. How sad because he really did have so much potential. Unfortunately, his inner demons took over.

Anonymous said...

Who talks ill of the dead? He may have been a 'pig' in the sense that he was a single man who slept around. He wasnt married though. A man who sleeps around? Thats like more than 50% of the nation. So you just hate Mormons? Kind of seems like you are the fucked up one. Im even borderline atheist, and I can see that.

Anonymous said...

Why doesn't anyone point to the emptiness and shallowness of his employment? Surely working for "Prepaid Legal" fooling poor people into delusions of grandeur was nothing BUT lying. And lying, And lying. And laying traps for the poor. His background was poverty; yet he found a job that only gave a guilty and delusional picture of "wealth" that if obtained was dirty wealth because it was earned from the delusions and the impoverishment of the already poor.
And, so, how could he motivational, except with false words based on his own determination or inability to determine his own falseness?

Arias, in my opinion, was the funhouse mirror reflection of his "career." Opportunism, gold digging, desperation, lies.

Anonymous said...

And so, how could he BE motivational…./

Anonymous said...

failed determination to determine his own falseness…./

Gabriana said...

Everyone. Everyone has there opinion, and is entitled to it but we shouldn't be saying it on the last thing his family and friends have of him. Go play it on different social media websites. Leave his blog to be read and inspire different people, not to remind people of a tragedy.

Gabriana said...

Everyone. Everyone has there opinion, and is entitled to it but we shouldn't be saying it on the last thing his family and friends have of him. Go post it on different social media websites. Leave his blog to be read and inspire different people, not to remind people of a tragedy.

Anonymous said...

It's funny about the journal as well because everyone said that Jodi had stolen it yet Sky was ordered in a deposition to hand it over. The more and more I look at this I think Travis was murdered by the Hughes, Jodi set up to take the fall so that Sky and Chris could write the book and make millions off of it where they told of Travis and Jodi's story that had a bad ending rather instead the sucessful ending had Travis and Jodi written it together.

Kiss the Ring Chris and Sky....It calls you home.

Graciela Thomas said...

Im at a loss for words. This is definitely something to reflect on. RIP

angelica zambrano said...

WTF??? the trial was watched by so many and its clear Jodi planned and plotted... On an occasion (defence were not allowed to use as evidence) she called him saying "Travis I am horny blah blah blah do you know what will turn me on?" Tell me no I can't go on no no ok call me a school girl call me a virgin it will make me even more horny blah blah blah ok ok I will say it... JA = wait wait ley me oil my pussy call back in 5mins... She then recorded what was heard in court... How do you know?? She planned the recording to cover her tracks if things went wrong which they did but how do you know???? I ashamedly admit I gave the plan but I was not allowed to be called because it was called speculation but yes that ugly dog planned the whole child molester story

Anonymous said...

Travis didn't deserve to die, but he was far from the man he so desperately tried to portray. First, he claimed to be a devout Mormon, yet he obviously lived his life in a way that shames his religious beliefs. Secondly, his professional life was nothing more than a pyramid scheme that relied on convincing people (maybe I should say "recruiting" them) to join Pre-Paid Legal, which is nothing but Amway for a service instead of a product. Anyone who thinks Travis was a successful businessman is kidding him- or herself. Travis was just another guy in a suit selling snake oil. Perhaps his only redeeming quality is that he was a good speaker and had an ability to convince people who were largely down on their luck.

TruthFountainX said...

LOL. LOL. LOL.

This guy was a total a-hole and a big dummy to be having casual sex with an unstable woman that he knew was obsessed with him AND reading this blog. CYBER-ROMEO FAIL

Just tell the girl you have sex with, on a public blog, that she is not enough of a good catch for a great catch like you!

Tell everyone in the world how you are constantly searching for Miss Right while having sex with Miss Wrong when you know Miss Wrong is reading your blog!

Brag to the whole world about how all of your friends are helping you find someone better than the girl you sleep with because they KNOW HER and SHE KNOWS THEM and now she knows they all say she isn't good enough for you. That won't make her go cray-cray-crazy mad.

Tell the whole world how you want to make the world a better place and make sure you make it perfectly clear to everyone at your Church,(because you are so religious) that you deserve true love, then go have rough sex with the crazy woman you just use for sex, let her drive across the country because you don't mind leading her on and wasting her time and money, she's just a sex toy to you. Use her for sex because you are so religious and you deserve happiness and true love.

LOL.

All the idiots defending him on this board are as delusional, corrupt, and idiotic as the late, great Mr. Travis Victor Alexander, the World Famous Ladies' Man of God and Country Esq.

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Nicole Ferrier said...

I have to say that I was lead to this blog thru doing research on the arias case but I am really glad I was. I have heard so much thru the media about Travis and the image I had in my head was not of the man I am reading of in this blog. I really wish I could have known Travis. He sounds like an amazing man, and what an intellect he has. I pray God will put a man like him in my life one day. I love how he described if you want a certain type of person in your life , you need to be that person in return. God bless the Alexander family, and rest in peace Travis.

Anonymous said...

He was single and liked sex and PRETENDED TO BE A MORMON FOLLOWING THEIR VALUES, all the while having screwed up pre-marital sex in secret. Yeah, not surprised a scorned woman would do this to him for leading people on. That's his punishment.

Anonymous said...

"LOL. LOL. LOL.

This guy was a total a-hole and a big dummy to be having casual sex with an unstable woman that he knew was obsessed with him AND reading this blog. CYBER-ROMEO FAIL

Just tell the girl you have sex with, on a public blog, that she is not enough of a good catch for a great catch like you!

Tell everyone in the world how you are constantly searching for Miss Right while having sex with Miss Wrong when you know Miss Wrong is reading your blog!

Brag to the whole world about how all of your friends are helping you find someone better than the girl you sleep with because they KNOW HER and SHE KNOWS THEM and now she knows they all say she isn't good enough for you. That won't make her go cray-cray-crazy mad.

Tell the whole world how you want to make the world a better place and make sure you make it perfectly clear to everyone at your Church,(because you are so religious) that you deserve true love, then go have rough sex with the crazy woman you just use for sex, let her drive across the country because you don't mind leading her on and wasting her time and money, she's just a sex toy to you. Use her for sex because you are so religious and you deserve happiness and true love.

LOL.

All the idiots defending him on this board are as delusional, corrupt, and idiotic as the late, great Mr. Travis Victor Alexander, the World Famous Ladies' Man of God and Country Esq."



This.

Maybe all the people defending him are pretentious, hypocritical, two-faced, "religious" people too.

Anonymous said...

This guy is such a jerk. If he doesn't want to marry her, then why does he keep inviting her to have sex at his place. And his religion does not support pre-marital sex.

And all this time, he keeps that a secret and tells others he's looking for a wife, while having sex with other. This is what you call a JERK. The girl who found out dodged a bullet! Any girl who finds out should cut him off from her life immediately. Good for the women who declined marrying him.

Anonymous said...

And poor Deanna. He dumped her before to pursue another woman, who smartly rejected him, and he went back to Deanna again. Then for 3 years he had sex with her and did not marry her, against his religion. He doesn't even follow their values. Come on, for over 3 years you should know already whether you want to marry the woman or not. Just strung her along. He's such a user and hypocrite. His "Career" speaks volumes about his character. If you meet a guy like this run far far far away!!! Doesn't matter if he's Mormon or whatever, this proves there are hypocrites in the world.

Meva Sperisen said...

OMG

Anonymous said...

http://jodiarias.blogspot.co.uk/?m=1

Anonymous said...

You are extremely stupid and opinionated. Was he a hypocritical mormon? Yes, but actually I know many people who are mormon who had children before marriage at the age of 18, I watched my die hard Christian friend in a church get married while she was pregnant. Catholics have sex. Mormons have sex. All people from every religion fornicates regardless if they admit it or not. But this man was not a pig. One less mormon in the world? No you idiot. This was a genuine man who just couldn't find a way to hop off Jodi's vagina. And quite frankly he did what many many men still do today. He didnt deserve to die.

Howard Gere (Jane, Arizona Sky, Dirk) said...

Is Travis alive? He posted this then he's not dead
Trace his IP and free Jodi because there's no crime - he's alive, not dead!

Anonymous said...

(1) He's arrogant
(2) He was sexually perverse. Talking about how a 12 year old girl having an orgasm,is 'really hot', speaks volumes.
(3) He didn't give a shit about Jodi.

(4) Jodie was/is a psychopath.


Travis chose his playmate poorly.

You add arrogance,sexual perversion and psychopath together and it's a vile mix waiting to explode.

Neither of these people are people I would have ever enjoyed friendship with.






Renae Hagen said...

And skank was getting fingered in a parking lot with her magic panties on.. Oh yes she was a whore.. Act like one and then you wonder why people ask you for sex..get real

Laura Cicco said...

Wow how evil. You deserve someone just like jodi. Hey maybe your with her now and she us slowly poisening you with every bite you take. Enjoy

Laura Cicco said...

Wow how evil. You deserve someone just like jodi. Hey maybe your with her now and she us slowly poisening you with every bite you take. Enjoy

Anonymous said...

He was a piece of shit that got what he deserved.

spay/neuteryourpets said...

He shouldn't of referred to her as a whore, or lied to some of the women he dated but nothing he did deserved someone being that possessive, or evil just like Travis said...'she was evil, a sociopath, and the worst thing that ever happened to him!' RIP, Travis ♡

Jr. Williams said...

What is with motivational speakers?
influential

Anonymous said...

Jodi is innocent!

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Good post.

Anonymous said...

Travis was the psychopath.

Sophie said...

No.

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